These are some favorite sayings of a narcissist and what they mean:
1. “You never let me finish when I am saying something.”
When a narcissist says this, what they actually mean is, “I want you to stay silent because what you have to say is absolutely and completely valid. And those valid points would somehow counter my manipulative tactics, and I might lose control. But I want my control to be there, and I want to maintain it over to you so that I can keep getting supplied. And the best way to do that is to keep you silent. And I am making it all about you. I am seeding it out in your mind, in your brain, that you do not let me speak when, in reality, it’s me only who has been speaking throughout the relationship. And all I do is I expect you to listen.
2. “What else do you want from me?”
This sentence is very, very covertly dangerous because there is a presumption in this question that I am doing everything for you, and you are being ungrateful. So, what else do you want from me now? When in fact, narcissists do not even do the most basic things that a person is expected to do for another person, such as respecting them and showing care and affection without having them beg for it. And they know this. They know that they are not doing anything, but they are creating doubt again in your brain so that you start questioning yourself and stop asking them so that you start questioning your reality.
3. “I don’t know what you’re talking about.”
The translation is, “I exactly know what you’re talking about, but I am pretending that I don’t know and I’m doing so to escape responsibility, to escape accountability.” “I am making you question your reality and twisting it for you so that you start feeling crazy so that you start asking yourself, ‘What’s wrong with me?'” “Is it me who is making things up?” “And this is why when you leave the relationship, you have questions like, ‘Am I the one who is the problem here? Am I the narcissist? Did I do something that made them do what they did?'” “And it is because of the heinous, the ugly manipulation and gaslighting they do while you are in relationships, this is a root of cognitive dissonance.”
4. “No one thinks the way you think.”
What they are actually saying is “I am using Ally, real or imagined, to back up my lies and manipulation so that you feel isolated.” I am triangulating you at the moment, but it is all invisible. I am creating people imaginary in my support. Or they could be real to prove that it is you who is a problem here, to prove that the problem is your thinking. The problem is your feelings. I am clearly bald, physically dismissing your feelings, your thoughts, your identity, your personality, and your whole existence. This is all an invisible setup to isolate, to make you feel the problem. I am making you question even the most basic principle you have been following. I am making you question your value, and your belief system so that I can break them down and demoralize you to the extent that there is nothing left of you.
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