Fed-Up!!

I was originally going to wait until tomorrow to post this latest update but I'm so fed-up ,pissed-off, and mad it just couldn't wait and I needed to vent so here it is; it just couldn't wait.

I was checking my stuff ahead of time( and it's a good thing,too) to make sure I have everything I need for Thanksgiving dinner for the upcoming weekend but noticed my olive oil was missing and I just knew the 30 YR old did something to it, likely threw it out and I told my hubby who said that IS what happened so I confronted him and he admitted it, saying I was "threatening to kill his GF" ( who is allergic to olive oil) even though I never did; what I actually said (and I was just trying to make a point) was that I should  put olive oil on Beja so he'll stop stealing him off me as I know he stays away from and won't touch anything that might have olive oil on it, not wanting to endanger his GF or take a chance  and risk it so I figured it he thinks Beja might have some on him( and I did used to clean out Buddy's ears with it) then maybe he'd finally leave him alone, esp. since he's the only thing I love and the last thing keeping me alive. It was merely just a deterrent  to him stealing my dog( and today he was with him all day and kept him confined in his room with him and I hardly even saw him at all). I just want him to leave Beja alone and will do anything to get my dog back.

He's all I have now.

Then he says I "Can't threaten" (even though I wasn't) but even so, what gives him the "say" to tell me to do or to not do anything? What  "authority" does he have over me,anyway? Who made him boss? Then he announces that we're "Using sunflower oil from now on...." except no, I'm NOT; I've been cooking with olive oil for over 40 plus years and I happen to like  my olive oil and I need it to cook my herbed potatoes for Thanksgiving( and to fry my gnocchi and my hubby uses it for his wings, etc. and a substitute wouldn't taste the same) and I'm NOT even going to cook  Thanksgiving dinner in protest if I don't have my ingredients and my life and my cooking doesn't "revolve" around his GF,anyway, who doesn't even live here, eat here, and isn't even a part of our family, and  he has no right to throw out MY stuff, anyway, and I'm fed-up with always being  told what to do, dictated to, controlled, over-ruled, vetoed,silenced, etc. in my own home and the last time I checked it was MY NAME on the house deed, not his and no one is going to tell me I can't use olive oil in my own house if I want to and if he doesn't like it he can leave.

I'll just get more olive oil and hide it so he can't throw it out.

This is MY house and he just lives here.

First he steals my dog and now he throws out my stuff and dictates what I can do..

It's like he's the parent and I'm the child.

I bet the cocaine I found is his,too.

I think it's time he moves out.

I don't have to put up with this shit and he's almost 31 years old.

As well, there was a bad fire at a house just a couple of streets over from ours and when the wind blows a certain way I can really smell it and it reminds me of our fire back in 1996 and brings back flashbacks of traumatic memories and smells like a campfire or wildfires, and today is also John Lennon's 85 th birthday and now he's  been dead longer(45 years) than he was alive.(40 years). I can still remember that day in 1980 when  I'd heard he died and how I had a dream about him  just the night before.

Sometimes people just need to be heard and seen.-Eric.H.