A Sad Goodbye.

My father-in-law has died. I will miss his funny laugh, his nice smile, his French accent, him being here for holidays, etc. he was one of the good guys and one of my faves in my hubby's family and now my kids only have one grandparent(my mother) left. it's sad but he was ready to go so for him it's good and he'll be made healthy, whole, and restored again. He actually died Monday night and one of his brothers told me the next Morning but we didn't want to tell my hubby until after his colonoscopy yesterday as we know how he'd react and we wanted to make sure he got thru the procedure ok(which they wouldn't do if he was freaking out and all psychotic) as it's important as they're testing for cancer. So far so good......until.....

We got a delivery from a florist: somehow his work got news of it ( I have no idea how) and sent him a nice plant of condolence(I named Robert.....Robert Plant... get it.... like Robert Plant from Led Zeppelin) so now the dilemma was what to do with the plant until after the procedure so he doesn't notice it and ask about it: do we hide it or just leave it there and hide the Sorry for your loss card until after(once he knows) and just hope it blends in with all the other flowers and plants we always have and bring into the house hoping he won't even notice, or what? That's what we ended up doing; just left it right there on the diningroom table, card removed and he never even noticed, thank God.

He had to fast for 2 days before and had laxatives and when I had mine it was a literal shit storm and it was a like an angry erupting volcano just angrily spewing out shit like I've never seen before and never even knew was possible( along with squirting out massive amount of blood along with it, it was like a faucet) and I warned him but he said he never noticed any difference; likely because he always shits like that all the time anyway; I was sure he must have Colitis or something, but nope, just 2 polyps (like I had) they removed and no cancer, luckily. He was so dopped-up after the anesthetic he was tripping and totally out of it; it was so funny. he couldn't drive or operate heavy machinery for 24 HRS and I joked, Well, there goes your plans for the backhoe today! and he looks really confused and gasps, What was I supposed to do with the backhoe? and when I told him it was just a joke he goes, What? he also slept alot and was sleep-walking and mumbling and in a "fog" but I don't know still if his brother( who drove him home) ever even told him yet about his dad or not, and I don't want to ask and bring it up and upset him or send him catatonic, so I can't tell if his out-of-focus is still due to the sedation or if he does know and it's a trauma reaction..... I asked if he has today off work and he said he has 3 days off which is typical bereavement leave here so maybe he does know he's just not  acknowledging it and has just "buried" it deep in his psyche like he does with all trauma? (everyone reacts to trauma and grief differently.).....

As well, I got a message from Facebook telling me they got a report my screen name Pogue Mahone (which means Kiss my arse in irish Gaelic but hardly anyone knows and I've had it for years) is "offensive" and violates their rules and I have a week to change it or my account is cancelled and I suspect it's my bitch ex-friend Patti who reported me; you know, the one that just used me to get puppies to have Buddy breed with her Dachshund and as soon as she got preo she dumped me as a friend, cut me out of her life and blocked me on social media; she just used me to get what she wanted and just the day before I got reported I had posted on a Dachshund group on FB replying to a question about the standard for studding and I replied either a stud fee or a puppy and then I said what happened to me and warned not to have your dog have a litter with a friend's dog or you may end up losing the friendship or end up getting used like I did.....and I guess somehow she must have seen it ( even though she blocked me, unless she read it using another account which sort of defeats  the purpose of blocking me) and the guilt got to her and she knew I was talking about her and figured somehow all the others would be able to connect the dots and figure out it was her and she'd be publically shamed ( and all the other comments were how awful and horrible it was and how some people have no class  and they're sorry this happened to you, etc.)and she always does report people for everything, a nosey parker that can't mind her own business and likes to cause trouble for people(and talk shit behind her friends' backs and then wonders why people don't like her!) as well as being 2-faced, and using people and a racist as it turns out,too. I'm better off without her, but I have no doubt it was her. Coincindence? I think not. Who else could it be and she is a vengeful bitch like that....