I got this from Quora:
It's the same from being bullied,too:
In no particular order:
- Conditional love and acceptance.
- Fear of abandonment.
- low self esteem and self confidence.
- An inner voice that is overly critical of one’s self.
- Constantly apologizing to people for everything, even trivial things.
- Fear of raised voices and loud sounds.
- Fear when someone raises their hand quickly.
- Anxiety stronger than any medication made for it.
- Social awkwardness.
- Self deprecating sense of humor or dark humor to hide our pain.
- Fake smiles that do not reach our eyes when we pretend not to be hurt by something.
- Confusion over compliments or kind words aimed out direction.
- Never feeling good enough.
- Hating to show weakness or vulnerability.
- Extra-sensitive to rejection or perceived rejection.
- PTSD
- Wanting approval from friends and family but afraid to believe it if we receive it.
- We wonder what loving parents and a happy home would be like.
- A void where love for parents would otherwise be present.
- Fear of parenthood.
- Always feeling inadequate. Never being good enough.
- Fear of trusting others.
- Envy of friends in normal families.
- Hatred for pretense and fakery. Even though sometimes we ourselves pretend to be okay when we are not.
- Inability to stop loving someone we truly care about, because we know the pain of being abandoned.
- Tenacity. Stubborn. Determination and an unwillingness to give up or be broken.
- Visceral anger to seeing someone mistreat a child.
- A hope, however small, that someone will one day see us for who we are and love us anyway; unconditionally. Just as we are willing to give that unconditional love to someone worthy.
- Knowing we’ll never receive an apology for our childhood or closure for our pain. Or answers to our questions.
I’m sure there’s more. I understand all of these things and I know others do too. We are lifelong members of a club we never signed up for or wanted to be in. We survived.
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