Fat Lives Matter.

I found this on Quora  and I can relate to it. I used to actually be skinny, really skinny, until I was 45(and had my gallbladder out, plus hormones  of middle-age and slower metabolism that comes with it, and menopause,etc, and my body changed) and then the weight came on and wouldn't come off and then I was fat so I've been both. I know how it feels from both perspectives. 

Kellie Hahnel

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What do overweight people understand that most people don't?

Take it from a chronically ill abuse and neglect survivor who’s recovering from an eating disorder.

1. Everyone judges you. Everyone. Even if they say they don't. Overweight is associated with laziness and lack of discipline. Nobody thinks of illness, eating disorders or other problems first. It's always: Fat = Negative.
2. You're unappealing to look at, but still stick out due to your size. A great invitation for bullies.
3. Always feeling like someone who is hitting on you is either a fetishist, a weirdo or messing with you, because you're just not used to people actually being attracted instead of repulsed by you.
4. Testing the waters before sitting down somewhere because you never know if it can handle your weight.
5. Feeling ashamed and guilty for eating what you enjoy. Maybe feeling guilty for eating in general. Food shopping almost causes physical discomfort for me. Food shopping with friends or relatives is even worse.
6. Loving and hating food and exercise. It's so good but so bad.
7. Being the last one picked for everything.
8. Being unable to cross your legs, properly scratch your back, and wiping on the toilet.
9. Changing your clothes in the bathroom instead of the changing room because everyone is so skinny and attractive and you feel so out of place, unattractive and ashamed.
10. Being the last one behind everyone else while running or walking in a group, your legs are pudding, your chest hurts, your sides, every breath is torture, and the people in front of you roll their eyes at how slow you are and have to wait for you. Truly a walk of shame.
11. A smoker’s addiction is invisible while he's not smoking. You never know if someone cuts themselves as long as they keep their scars hidden. But overweight people can not hide their struggle. They have to wear it for everyone to see — and to judge.